Letter to get your best friend back
To my dear friend who I hurt terribly and miss so badly I just want to say I'm sincerely sorry for putting you through my overdose. I know I made it seem like your fault, but it was never your fault, I was lying to myself and it was easier to blame you than to realise that. I'm really struggling without you now, we used to be best friends and you mean a lot to me, more than you know. I hate fighting, especially with you.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: A letter to my best friend:)
My Apology Letter to a Very Special Friend
I know, it's complicated. And yes, we both had a part in the friendship's demise. I don't claim to be a saint or innocent. But I'm thankful at least I can say I kept trying. For a while at least. It sucks because our kids were also friends. And now, I don't think they can say that they are. They don't see each other. My kids ask me, "Why? What hurts the most is that we didn't fight enough to keep the friendship going. You were struggling with your demons and frustrations and didn't see me as someone to confide in about that.
Once the one constant we shared was gone, it proved that it was the glue that held our friendship together. So when you left the constant, you also left me. I tried. I thought we were headed back in the right direction. And then silence. You didn't reciprocate, and eventually I gave up.
What do you do when someone you thought was a forever friend isn't even a friend anymore? I keep asking myself: "How did I get that one so wrong? I miss my friend. At the same time, I'm mad at her for not being true blue.
I want to hug her, laugh like we used to, and put all this crap behind us. I also want to put a Rocky Balboa hurting on a punching bag to take out all my anger and frustration. It's really complicated.
What would I do if she reached out to me after all this time? Hopefully I would be kind and gracious. Certainly, a small part of me would think I was being a wuss in doing that. I'm afraid the die has been cast. I wrote this cryptic post a few months ago because I needed to wrap my brain around why my friendship with my bestie fell apart.
Once our common ground disappeared, radio silence followed. I've had time to think about it more objectively. Take away the sadness and sense of loss and instead put some sort of meaning behind it. See my mistakes and flaws in how I acted and be better next time. And move onward and upward. But think about how many friends you've had through your life. Sure, there are some constants, but why do we import more significance to losing an adult friend than losing touch with say a middle school friend who moves away?
Both were in your life at a particular window of time and for a reason. Seasons change; so do we. And sadly, so do our friends. I like the word reconciliation here because it means "returning to faith or harmony after a conflict.
I will only leave the door open for reconciliation so long as the friend didn't do something deplorable or harmful to me or my family. Then there should always be the possibility that we might become friends again. OK, so the friendship certainly won't be the way it was before. At least not overnight.
But a friend deserves a second chance. Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, "The only way to have a friend is to be one. It takes effort on both sides. In some friendships, it hardly seems like work because both give so freely and naturally. But when you boil it down, both have to have skin in the game. Friendship is a two way street, not a one way road. It's been a year now since I saw her in person and we talked. So picking up the phone or texting her now would be so random, so awkward.
Time is now the extra roadblock. If you are estranged from a friend, do something about it today before time becomes a barrier you feel you can't overcome. I won't make this mistake again. Be a better friend to those friends that are standing by my side. And quit looking in the damn rear view mirror.
I'm a Pisces, so my sensitive, overthinking soul doesn't handle this part well. This particular friend is in my past. She is not in my present. So I should stop looking in the rear view mirror and rehashing what happened and overlook those wonderful friends who have remained steadfast, loyal listeners. Quit romanticizing the friendship and yearning for something that didn't last.
My NOW friends get me and have my back. So I'm going to be even more appreciative and thankful for those friendships and not dwell on what has been lost. Will there be a postscript to this story? Who knows? But for now, I'm good. Better, in fact. I've learned that it's good to have friends in ALL forms: "for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
I know this happens. I just didn't think it would happen to us. We went from talking every day to total silence. How did we let this happen? I miss you, friend. But I still wonder, why did you give up on US? I think I can forgive. Then I can't. I wish we could go back to the way we were. Some friends ARE friends for a season. Leave the door open for reconciliation.
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An Open Letter To My Best Friend: You Deserve The World
But I want you to know, I often find my own self wondering what I did to deserve you. You make every single person around you better, without even realizing it. You light up every room, and lift up every single person around you.
I know. My lack of positivity, my negative mindset, the complaining, the crying, the silence, the stress… the list goes on. When things get tough, a lot of people tend to run as fast as possible. But not you.
A Letter To My Best Friend
Maybe some people are just passing through. How are you? But I still hope you think of me on occasion and miss me too. You were the one person I was supposed to be able to count on for anything. You used to be a phone call away—but suddenly you stopped answering. You were supposed to always look out for me—but then you were talking behind my back. We were supposed to be friends forever—but the next thing I knew, we were growing further and further apart.
I Just Want my Best Friend Back
I miss you. I miss texting you about every single stupid thing that happens in my life. I miss laughing with you and all of our inside jokes. I miss sending you heinous Snapchats and FaceTiming you from the bathroom. I miss looking over at you and knowing exactly what you are thinking.
Here’s An Open Letter To The One I Used To Call A Best Friend
Sometimes when you're venting to me about a mistake you made or how you can't find anything to wear that looks good on you, I'm baffled. I'm baffled because I don't see those things. You have these insecurities that I know about because we're best friends —but I don't see them. To me, I see this incredible person who amazes me on a daily basis.
Dear B,. This past week has been absolute torture. Every day I feel the space that you once inhabited, and every day I feel that urge to just pick up the phone and call you. It just came so suddenly. I had suspicions that something was weighing heavily on your mind, but I never imagined that it would come to this. I really thought that we could have made it through any situation.
An Open Letter to my Ex-Best Friend
By Sarah Ivens for MailOnline. The most powerful love letter I have ever written was painfully scrawled, word by word, on pale yellow stationery. I wept as I wrote it, feeling as if my year-old heart would break. It was to Claire, my best friend of more than two decades, and I am in no doubt my letter was the only thing that could have rescued our battered relationship. So what drove me to such desperate measures? Claire had always been there.
I know, it's complicated. And yes, we both had a part in the friendship's demise. I don't claim to be a saint or innocent. But I'm thankful at least I can say I kept trying.
We are not that close anymore, but in my mind, I still call you my best friend. Truthfully, we barely even know anything about each other anymore. However, you have always been the first and only person I run to. Your heart was my only habitat, your laughter was my only relief , your burdens were mine as well, your pain was the only source of grief in my life.
Fortunately, best friends usually end up making up because they care about each other. Things may feel rough, but stay positive. To get your best friend back, try telling them that you miss them and you value having them in your life, so they know how important their friendship is to you. If you did something wrong, you should apologize for what you did to help the friendship can heal.